Monday, February 10, 2014

Pillow Talk with God

California High Desert Sunrise Photo by Jessie Eastland

In The UnexpectedLegacy of Divorce, Judith Wallerstein mentions “pillow talk.” For happily married couples, the moments before sleep lend themselves to conversation. Couples may share their concerns about their kids, brainstorm solutions, give their perspectives, and strategize together as needed. They can support and encourage each other, pray together, and go to sleep knowing they aren’t parenting alone.


Single parents don’t have this advantage. Serious fears and epiphanies about our children usually surface late at night, and we must field them alone.

I read Psalm 19 recently. “Day to day pours out speech,” writes David, “and night to night reveals knowledge” (verse 2 ESV). The psalm compares the sun to a bridegroom coming out of his chamber and running his course with joy. I believe it’s a metaphor for Christ.

During the day, we’re busy. We observe events and face challenges. We experience joys, sorrows, and plenty of stress. Sometimes, we remember to tune in to God as we go. If we do, we understand that he is speaking through everything that happens. “Day to day pours out speech.”

At night, we reflect. We try to make sense of all we’ve encountered during the day. We ponder, connect the dots, and make plans.

We can defeat our worries for our kids. In the absence of a spouse to share “pillow talk” with, we can tune in to God. “Night to night reveals knowledge.” The Hebrew word for “knowledge” means perception, wisdom, discernment, and skill—things we need for raising kids alone.

Lately, I’ve been taking notes as I pray for my kids. I’ll jot down a Scripture to share with them; a new possibility for schoolwork; or a reminder to specifically praise them for something they’ve done. Connection with God, through prayer and the Bible, gives me the direction I need to guide my children.

Pillow talk. With God.


And we were worried about what, exactly?




16 comments:

  1. It is so true that we tend to think more and night, and worries, thoughts, come up at night. May your pillow talk with the Lord be sweet. (My husband is out like a light, so pillow talk is no possibility, but of course I can get his counsel at other times. :-)) I love your application of the scripture. "pour on the knowledge, Lord!"

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    1. Thanks, Betsy! Blessings to your family. :)

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  2. This is beautiful! I love the idea of taking notes while praying for your kids. What a wonderful practice, one I could benefit from. Thanks for sharing!

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    1. Thanks, Roz. The trick is using the notes once I've taken them, lol! Sometimes the day gets so busy I forget to refer to them and share what I meant to. I have to play catch up a lot. Blessings! I love your business-wise blog!

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  3. Thanks for the reminder to take our worries to God while resting on our pillow, instead of taking them to bed with us!

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  4. I am not a single parent, but I have had a lot of pillow talk with God over the years. I find that if I talk to God before I sleep, I sleep much better. It truly helps. Kathleen @ Fearlessly Creative Mammas

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    1. I agree. No matter what our situation, we all need to bring our circumstances to God and seek his guidance. Thanks for your comment!

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  5. My mind will race at night too, and keep me up sometimes. This is a much better idea than counting sheep;)

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    1. I know, huh? Counting sheep never worked for me. :)

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  6. Back from Members 2 Remember:) I caught that you are writing a single mom book over on Roz's blog, and I just wanted to say that's fantastic!

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    1. Thanks for the encouragement, Courtney! It is a big project, and I'm learning so much from it. I've interviewed several single moms, and every story has so much to teach the rest of us. I'm using each interview for a different chapter, focusing on various dilemmas that single moms face and how God helps us through.

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  7. I really like this. Even though I have my husband, it is still vital to discuss my joys and concerns with God. My husband and I also pray together and with our family on a daily basis. Thanks for your beautiful post.

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    1. Thanks for sharing that, Becky Jane. It is good to know families are tuning in to God every day!

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  8. Two people that I care for dearly are going through a tough time - divorce is the road that they are on now and I pray for them and their children. I have divorced parents and even as an adult I still carry the results with me. I am very interested in reading The Unexpected Legacy of Divorce. Thank you for sharing. I admire your strength as a single parent.

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    1. The Unexpected Legacy of Divorce should be required reading for divorced parents. It's also very helpful for adult children of divorce. It was hard to read about what divorce does to kids, but since I could not stop my ex from going through with it, i needed the information. It helped me steer them through it. We still have our divorce fall-out, but I think this book and others like it helped minimize the damage.

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