It’s hard to create a warm, joyous Christmas with a divorce gale howling in the back door. Whether it occurred recently or long ago, divorce can have a drastic effect on our children’s peace. And at Christmas, with its emphasis on family and love, the pain reaches new levels.
All good things begin with acceptance. When we accept our reality, we aren’t encumbered by our high expectations, or pressure to create the perfect holiday. Acceptance is like a reset button; it helps us embrace the truth about our lives. Instead of resisting, grieving, denying, or trying to escape the truth, we learn to relax in the midst of it. Embracing our reality opens our eyes to blessings we would otherwise miss.
Like, for example, the blessing that Christmas is supposed to be all about:
|Christ Jesus came into the world to save sinners (1 Timothy 1:15 ESV).|
Blessed are those whose lawless deeds are forgiven, and whose sins are covered; blessed is the man against whom the Lord will not count his sin (Romans 4:7-8 ESV).
It’s not that we have to try to be perfect. It’s that everyone has sinned—everyone—and the Christmas Baby brought forgiveness for us all. (Thankful much?)
And that unfathomable, eternal blessing casts a different hue over the holidays, highlighting glowing lights on a tree; the early call of a dove in the still hours; a heavenly solo at our church’s Christmas pageant; dazzling winter white on the fields; and don’t forget those yummy Costco cookie samples! We learn to see God’s love in the little things, and we receive his strength for the hard stuff.
Acceptance is the only closure with divorce, because divorce is never over. Let’s accept what God has allowed, trusting him to bring us through. So doing, we give our kids the best at Christmas.
Take a few minutes and experience the peace and hope of Christmas: