Monday, December 31, 2012

Keeping Perspective in 2013




I’m sure I’m not the only one to pause at the beginning of a new year and survey my life. I experience the week between Christmas and New Year’s as a schedule-free truce zone, sealed off from the demands of regular life. In this uniquely quiet, separated space, I notice areas I want to change; I reflect on the previous year’s victories and mistakes; I devise ways to reach old goals I haven’t attained. Basically, I shove some of the debris off the decks for a new beginning. (I would say I clear the decks, but that’s a pipe dream!)

New beginnings are interesting. Before we interact with a new situation, we are uninvested. Before starting school, for example, we don’t know the faces of friends who will become dear to us, or of enemies who might invade our spirit with intimate cruelty. Before moving to the United States as a child, I saw it as one big, multifaceted mystery. As yet, I had no memories of interaction, unlocking the culture with a thousand communicative ties, so that now I can’t imagine not being part of it. New beginnings see us poised to engage, while Heaven waits with baited breath.

Interacting with our world is essential. We need others, and they need us. The danger is becoming distracted and losing our way. Perhaps that’s what King Solomon had in mind when he wrote that “The end of a matter is better than its beginning” (Ecclesiastes 7:8). Beginnings are filled with inspiration and hope; but satisfactory endings require steady focus and true grit.

To avoid losing our way, we must remember who we are, why we are here, and where we’re going. “You are not of the world, but I chose you out of the world,” Jesus told his followers in John 15:19. We don’t belong completely to what we see around us. This is easy to forget.

Hebrews 11, the “Faith Hall of Fame,” abounds with examples of saints who kept their focus from beginning to end. “They went about… destitute, afflicted, mistreated – of whom the world was not worthy” (Hebrews 11:38). They didn’t allow this world’s deceptions to entangle them, but kept to their mission, desiring “a better country, that is, a heavenly one.” (v. 16) Jesus himself “gathered up his courage and steeled himself for Jerusalem” (Luke 9:51), singularly focused on his destiny to die for the sins of the world.

To remain cognizant of who we are, why we’re here, and where we’re going, we will want to invest in our relationship with our Creator. A schedule-free truce zone needn’t be reserved exclusively for the holiday season. Indeed, we need it every day.

When we connect with God through prayer and the healing ministrations of his Word, we withdraw temporarily from the battlefield of life. We recall our true identity as forgiven, dearly loved children of a beneficent King; our purpose as his yielded channels of hope and love; and our eternal destiny of unbroken fellowship with him. This perspective restores the wounded spirit. It strengthens us to pursue our calling. Most of all, it reminds us that we are never alone: God has promised never to leave us, and to bring us to our satisfactory ending.

“’For I know the thoughts that I think toward you,’ saith the Lord, ‘thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you an expected end.’” – Jeremiah 29:11

What are some of your goals for 2013?


Monday, December 24, 2012

Reflections on A Christmas Carol



If I take the wings of the morning and dwell in the uttermost parts of the sea, even there your hand shall lead me, and your right hand shall hold me…. Even the darkness is not dark to you; the night is bright as the day; for darkness is as light with you. – Psalm 139:9-12

My kids and I were blessed to see A Christmas Carol yesterday, performed in the intimate San Jose Repertory Theater. I could see this production every Christmas and never get tired of it! It isn’t hugely fancy, but it beautifully presents Dickens’ themes of redemption and the true meaning of Christmas, without allowing an ounce of political correctness to cramp its style. Reflecting Dickens’ title, the performance was peppered with traditional Christmas carols that unapologetically proclaimed the true meaning of Christmas: Christ is born, and that changes everything.

Did you know that you can celebrate Christmas with only two pieces of wood, a match, and a prayer? In a cold, dark corner you can light a candle, sing a hymn, and experience the real meaning of Christmas. You can celebrate Christmas in a run-down apartment, on a raging ocean, in a refugee camp, in a basement; or in a brightly lit mansion, a family cabin in the woods, a European palace. In company or alone, wealthy or destitute, you can celebrate Christmas. The only place you can’t celebrate Christmas is in a heart that is closed to God’s love. And love pursues us, even there.

Christmas triumphs on the outer reaches of trouble and suffering. At the storm front, where the fierce winds of this world’s sorrows blow strongest, Christmas can actually be the sweetest.

Wherever you are, whatever’s happening in your life, Merry Christmas! And God bless us all.


Thursday, December 13, 2012

Blog of the Year 2012 Award



Recently, Susanna’s Apron was nominated for the Blog of the Year 2012 award, by Diane Roark at Recipes for Our Daily Bread. What a wonderful surprise! I feel very honored that Susanna’s Apron came to mind when Diane was nominating her favorite blogs. Thanks so much, Diane!

Diane’s blog is deeper than you’d expect a recipe blog to be. Diane has a precious special needs son, and her faith in God has brought her and her family through many trials. You can read Caleb’s story here.

My own Caleb’s diagnosis with type 1 diabetes, although far less traumatic than Diane’s experience, opened my eyes to the overwhelming feelings and challenges of parenting special needs children. Diane’s faith has been tested and found genuine; I have a lot of respect for this woman!

The rules for this award are simple:
  1. Select another blog or other blogs who deserve the ‘Blog of the Year 2012’ Award;
  2. Write a blog post and tell us about the blog(s) you have chosen – there’s no minimum or maximum number of blogs required – and ‘present’ them with their award;
  3. Include a link back to this page ‘Blog of the Year 2012’ Award at the Thought Palette and provide these ‘rules’ in your post (please don’t alter the rules or the badges!)
  4. Let the blog(s) you have chosen know that you have given them this award and share the ‘rules’ with them
  5. You can now also join our Facebook group – click ‘like’ on this page ‘Blog of the Year 2012’ Award Facebookgroup and then you can share your blog with an even wider audience
  6. As a winner of the award – please add a link back to the blog that presented you with the award – and then proudly display the award on your blog and sidebar … and start collecting stars…
Below are my choices for the Blog of the Year Award 2012. I chose them based on their genuine tone, depth, high encouragement level, and variety. Please stop by and visit these outstanding blogs. You won’t regret it!

  1. Sarah Beals shares her Scriptural insights at Joy-Filled Days. Sarah is a homeschool mom who lives what she believes. I always find her posts encouraging and edifying.
  2. Olive Tree: GrowingGreen in God’s House is a cross-cultural blog. It’s written by an American mom married to a El Salvadoran man, and they live in Turkey! I had the great blessing of friendship with Olive while she lived in California, and our children were friends when they were small. We still see them occasionally when they travel!
  3. April’s Home Cooking is the yummiest blog on my list. April is an amazing cook, a homeschool mom, and a pastor’s wife. And she’s a great friend! Visit April’s blog, but beware – you will want to make everything she writes about!
  4. Janet’s Journal is written by a single mom of three, who homeschools. Yep – just like yours truly! Janet and I believe similar things about being a mom, so it’s fun to read her thoughts. If you’re looking for a fantastic, talented website designer, click on Janet’s link to Pine Blossoms Website Designs.
  5. I (Heart) My Life is written by a courageous mom who’s winning her battle against breast cancer. I want my readers to be encouraged by her genuine words and uplifting attitude, so be sure to visit her blog. April is an inspiration, and has a lot to teach us all.
Many blessings as you read!



Monday, December 3, 2012

Four Ways to Help Children through a Crisis



Call upon me in the day of trouble; I will deliver you and you shall glorify me. – Psalm 50:15

Divorce is a crisis, no doubt about it. Other crises that might confront our children include the death of a parent, a diagnosis of a serious disease, natural disasters, and more. Even the death of a pet can rock a child’s world, threatening his basic need for security.

Troubles come, but a mom who depends on God is well equipped to lead her children through life’s storms. Here are four essentials to helping your children through a crisis.

Keep the Faith
Children need the stability of a parent who looks to God. That doesn’t mean you must have all the answers or remain perfectly serene. On the contrary; a strong faith asks the hard questions, wrestling with God through the dark night. It is OK to twist in the wind for a while. Be real with your children, acknowledging that you don’t understand why things have happened this way, and looking to God to bring you through. Real life and real faith are messy. It’s OK for your children to see that. Continue in prayer, read God’s Word, don’t give up church attendance. These simple actions demonstrate that you believe God can be trusted, no matter what’s going on.

Keep the Home Fires Burning
As much as possible, keep the same routine for your children. Be sensitive to their need to process, but not to the point of throwing order to the wind. Children thrive on routine, and during crises it’s important to require the usual chores, apply the usual discipline, and enjoy the usual family fun as much as you can. Even if all the externals have been swept away, expecting the usual respect and adherence to family rules reassures children that the world is going on and things will return to normal – even if it’s a new normal.

Keep Open Books
The big temptation is to tell our children that everything’s going to be fine. We can even appeal to "faith" in our reasoning, which compounds the problem. The truth is, everything may not be fine, at least in terms of what our children want. Faith does not guarantee the outcome we want; it gives us hope in our present reality.

Always be honest with children. They need to be able to trust you. Of course, you will want to be careful not to share more information than your children can handle, sparing them the gory details. Knowing how much to say can be difficult, but I’ve experienced God’s faithfulness repeatedly in this area. Pray, trust God, and then answer your child’s difficult questions honestly and gently.

Keep a Listening Heart
It’s also tempting to try to talk our children out of their feelings. When children express their pain, they don’t necessarily need answers or solutions. Of course we want to help them feel better; but explaining why the situation isn’t so bad, or will work out, or will resolve itself, is pretty useless to a hurting child.

Children need a container for their painful feelings. Be that container. They simply need to be heard, and to know they’re understood. Allow them to talk about the crisis whenever they want to. Don’t pry it out of them; but be ready when they are. Reflect back what they’ve said. Express empathy. “So, you’re feeling scared because Daddy’s gone? That must be hard! I felt scared like that once, too.” Then listen, in case there’s more.

One of my children was two when his father left. He didn’t even have words to express how he felt, and I could see he was struggling with anger. My simple inquiry – “Do you feel like throwing things?” – had a transforming effect. My son stared at me, clearly astonished that someone else was grasping what he felt. I didn’t have to say much more; the simple knowledge that he wasn’t alone with his feelings was a turning point for my son.

Crises can throw parenting into a whole new level of difficulty; but in Christ we have everything we need to bring our children safely through. Trust me – I’ve lived it.