Wednesday, October 24, 2012

Launching Sons in a Broken World

The Graduate by Norman Rockwell
It’s nerve-wracking to watch a son reach adulthood these days. (The same is true for girls, but I'll save that for a later post.) The Associated Press recently reported that 53 percent of America’s recent college graduates are unemployed or underemployed. Many of these young people carry huge debts, too. This is a tragic way to begin life! We want so much more for our sons, but the world is broken. Our sons may be broken, too. (Did you ever meet an adult with no issues at all?!) A million problems can potentially thwart their success and fulfillment.

Friday, October 12, 2012

Our Children’s Important Thoughts

Our children’s opinions matter. It’s important to listen to kids, reflect back what they say, and provide feedback, affirmation, and guidance as needed. While giving a child constant, undivided attention fosters self-centeredness, children do need to know that they have a voice, and learn to listen to other people’s voices. A healthy balance teaches humility and self-respect.

Young children can be very frank; they haven’t learned to withhold certain observations, so their opinions can be very instructive. When my children were small, they provided some illuminating insights:

“Mom, your teeth are yellow.”

Tuesday, October 9, 2012

Surprise in the Silence

Who shall bring any charge against God’s elect? It is God who justifies. – Romans 8:33

I can easily default to a warped view of God. I don’t have a balancing voice in my home, and as my “mom performance” dissipates into thin, silent air, I assume God disapproves. Perhaps this is true of many women, single or married.

We derive our assumptions from experience and personal interpretation. Some women endure a constant stream of negative assessment. Others hear an inner voice that harangues and oppresses. Tragically, these confusing messages can compel us to hide from God when we need him most. But if we look up, a surprise awaits us.