Tuesday, July 12, 2011

Four Imperatives When Your Spouse Walks Out

Here’s a post I wrote to encourage parents going through separation or divorce. Please feel free to share it with anyone you know in this situation.

“So then, those who suffer according to God’s will should commit themselves to their faithful Creator and continue to do good.” (1 Peter 4:19)

I remember the day my daughter learned to sit by herself. Five months old, she sat on the floor at a friend’s house and chewed a teething ring. Her brown eyes shone gleefully at her new independence. Sitting up, she had a whole new perspective!

I should have been delighted, but I couldn’t even smile. We were at the friend’s house because I did not want my children to see their dad packing his things. While Emily innocently expanded her world and her two- and four-year-old brothers played, their dad was leaving our family. 

Friday, July 1, 2011

Connecting with Our Kids

We have spoken freely to you, Corinthians, and opened wide our hearts to you. We are not withholding our affection from you, but you are withholding yours from us. As a fair exchange… open wide your hearts also. – 2 Corinthians 6:11-13

Are you connected with your kids? Connection happens when I know you’re there, you know I’m here, and we’re both aware of it. I’m aware that you know I’m here. And I know that you know I’m aware of it. And you know that I know you’re aware I’m here. That’s connection. (Disclaimer: I wrote that before my first cup of tea!)

Now, assuming you were able to follow my winding, amateur definition, connection may seem pretty basic, especially to an extrovert. But as simple as it sounds, some of us are actually pretty lousy at it. I certainly am. I wasn’t very connected with as a child, and I’m an introvert. It’s just easier for me to default into an isolated state.